Whether you have a special song or not, it is important to make sure the song you choose for your first dance is "danceable" and the lyrics are appropriate for your wedding. Below are a few things you should consider when choosing your wedding first dance song.
1. Is the song danceable?
Find a song that has a strong beat. The beat of a song is similar to heartbeats; it is a consistent beat that determines the pace of a song. When you hear a song, particular one with an obvious beat, such as “Blurred Lines” (not that I suggest you dance to this), you would naturally want to tap your foot, nod your head or even shake your hips! And while you are tapping the beat, you can find out the tempo of a song. The perfect song should not be too fast or too slow. It is actually harder to move slow than fast. Imagine running on a track versus running through mud.
2. How do you want your dance to look?
Romantic? Elegant? Fun? Traditional? Contemporary? Upbeat? Slow and smooth? Depending on the style you like, you can choose a song that carries the same feel. If you are going to take dance lessons, tell your dance teacher about your vision so that he/she can help you choose a song that matches the style you are looking for.
3. Are the lyrics appropriate?
The melody of a song may sound sweet and romantic but that doesn’t mean a song is appropriate for your wedding. Listen to the lyrics and make sure there aren’t any negative hidden meanings or inappropriate language.
4. Can your band or DJ play the song?
It is important to make sure that your band or DJ will play the version of your song that you have been practicing to. Any tempo or compositional changes can affect your dancing, especially if you have a choreographed or semi-choreographed dance.
5. Is the song too long?
A first dance should be no longer than 3 minutes. 2 to 3 minutes is the ideal length for a first dance. Keep it short and sweet so that your guests can enjoy the first dance and not get bored. Consider that professional performances are usually no more than 2-minute long.
What is your favorite first dance song? Please share it by commenting below!
Voted as one of Chicago Top 5 Dance Teachers 2013 by Art Intercepts, Szewai (C-Y) has been sharing the joy of partner dance since 2006. She is the founder of Duet Dance Studio, a Chicago dance studio that offers Latin and ballroom dance lessons, wedding dance lessons, and BYOB dance parties. Szewai believes partner dancing has the power to connect people and bring people closer. Besides dancing, she enjoys discovering hidden gems in the city, finding great music and making short videos about people and things that inspire her.
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